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  • A mother's letter to her future 16-year-old son

  • Dear son,
    Tonight you are laying next to me as a boy who is two going on three. I see how fast these years have gone by. There are so many things I want to teach you. Things I wish my parents had told me. As you turn 16, I want to share these things with you.
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  • Dear son,
    Tonight you are laying next to me as a boy who is two going on three. I see how fast these years have gone by. There are so many things I want to teach you. Things I wish my parents had told me. As you turn 16, I want to share these things with you.
    First, don't waste your time worrying. I always felt I lived so much of my life worried I would disappoint others or not be good enough. I hope you don't live like this. I want you to know that things can change in an instant so don't dwell on the bad because the good will come soon enough. Remember that worrying about the future only takes away from the present and the only person you have to prove something to is yourself.
    Know that it's OK to change your mind. If there is something you don't like about your life, change it. Do what makes you happy.
    Be adventurous. There is a small window between high school and full-fledged adulthood where you have few responsibilities. Take these few years to really live life. Visit other countries, go on spontaneous road trips and make memories that will last a lifetime.
    Date. This is an important one. The only way you are going to know what you want in a future spouse is to date people.
    Speaking of dating, know this, very few people actually marry their high school boyfriends/girlfriends. So when a girl breaks up with you, it's OK to take some time and be disappointed but remember there are lots more girls out there and you will find the right one. And 15 years later, you will look that girl that broke your heart up on Facebook (or whatever popular social media site is in existence now) and chances are you will be OK with the fact that it didn't work out.
    Keep this quote in mind, too: "One day, someone will walk into your life and make you see why it never worked out with anyone else." -- unknown.
    Someday you will be married and you will love your wife with all your heart. She will have some battle scars from dating that you will wish you could heal for her. So before you meet your future wife remember that every girl you date is someone's future wife. Treat her with respect and compassion. When you know she is not right for you, be honest and let her down gently.
    Speaking of your future wife, this is probably the most important thing I want to teach you. When you are dating and learning about yourself, make sure you take time to discover what you are really looking for in a future spouse. This is one area in life that you don't want to settle in. It's important to remember that no one is perfect so you need to decide what the deal breakers are and what are the things that you can live with. If someone fits all the important criteria, don't get hung up on the small things.
    Page 2 of 2 - When you find the one, don't wait for the rest of your life to start. Life is so short and precious, so when you find the person you want to spend the rest of your life with, don't wait for the perfect moment, there is no such thing.
    And that takes me to some advice my parents did bestow upon me. There isn't a perfect time to have kids, either. You'll always want to have more money in the back, be in a different position at work or have a bigger house, car, etc. So when you decide you want kids, go for it. Life has a funny way of working itself out. Kids don't need a ton of space or lots of things, they just need love.
    And that is what I want to end with, love. Tell your wife and kids you love them each and every single day. Kiss them and hug them until they tell you to stop. "No more kisses mama," you would tell me as a 2-year-old boy and then an hour later you would look at me smiling and say in a matter-of-fact tone, "You love me mama." You bet I do kid! Make sure your family never doubts your love for them.
    Love forever and always your mama
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